Latinas are commonly known for being "toxic or crazy" They love to argue, fight, and are often unpredictable and jealous. That's the trope. Most people like to joke about it and just say, "It is what it is."
But no one really asks why. I've been playing around with this theory for years and have decided to break it down into two areas: Language and something I call QuinceaƱera culture.
So, light a joint, and let's dig in.
Language
First, let's start by defining "Latina" as a woman or girl of Latin American origin or descent, according to the traditional definition. However, for the purpose of this section, I want to expand the term "Latina" to include any woman whose native language is a Romance language.
Having traveled extensively, I've noticed that the fiery Latina stereotype extends to women from Spain, many parts of Italy, France, and even Romania. All of these languages fall under the category of Romance languages. Romance languages are known for being filled with emotion. Unlike Germanic languages, which have words to describe practically everything under the sun, Romance languages often lack very specific words and rely more on expressing feelings.
Latin language speakers tend to heavily rely on emotions to get their point across. This can be observed in various Latin language music trends, TV shows, and other forms of media.
I hold the belief that language structure plays a significant role in shaping a culture. Germanic languages, known for their structure, often result in creating efficient and structured cultures. On the other hand, Asian languages are often credited with being better suited for math because of the character-based presentation.
One could argue that cultures where Romance languages exist may inherently contain inefficiency due to the lack of specificity in the language. This debate can delve into the nature versus nurture discussion: Is language a product of the traits of the people, or are the traits of the people a product of the language?
You could also toss in the debate made in the book "Foreign to Familiar" by Sarah A. Lanier that explores the cultural differences and challenges faced when engaging with people from different cultural backgrounds. It highlights the dichotomy between "hot-climate" and "cold-climate" cultures, providing insights and practical advice on how to bridge the gaps and foster understanding between them. The book emphasizes the importance of cultural intelligence and adaptability in building effective cross-cultural relationships.
Maybe warm its the warm weather that creates ācrazyā Latinas - Romanian Women are toxic, despite it snowing there. They are an odd case being trapped between slavic languages andā¦Hungarian ( Which is in its own language family.
In either case, my theory suggests that Latina toxicity stems from the fact that the language they speak forces them to rely on emotions since they lack specific words to describe their feelings. This ultimately causes the brain to short-circuit and leads to further irrationality.
QuinceaƱera culture
What is a QuinceaƱera? A QuinceaƱera is a traditional coming-of-age celebration in Latin American cultures, typically held for a girl turning 15. It marks the transition from childhood to womanhood and often includes a religious ceremony, a formal party, and symbolic rituals.
While it is true that speakers of Romance languages are often perceived as fiery, Latinas from Latin America are often specifically associated with being hot-tempered. This perception can be attributed to the influence of QuinceaƱera culture.
From a young age, Latinas are taught that they are princesses deserving of the world. Whether their families are wealthy or not, they will save for months or even years to provide their daughters with a lavish QuinceaƱera celebration, which is seen as a fantasy princess wedding or coronation.
Sacrifices Families Make For A QuinceaƱera - BuzzFeed Photography Article
At 15, these girls' brains aren't fully developed, but they are already internalizing the concept that the world belongs to them. This occurs towards the end of puberty when they also receive a lot of male attention and learn how to take advantage of it.
This is similar to the concept of "Covid Babies" not being well socialized, as well as kids who have grown up watching jump-cut YouTube videos their whole lives and now have short attention spans.
The Latina has been allowed to throw temper tantrums throughout her childhood, and instead of it getting nipped in the bud, she gets a coronation ceremony.
During this age, men typically find themselves in a state of confusion, struggling to understand women and navigating their way to pursue sexual encounters. Horny young men may go to great lengths just to catch a glimpse of a nipple.
Truthfully, they are behind - Latina moms are well known for babying their sons and not preparing them to be self-sufficient.In turn, Latinas quickly learn that no matter how crazy they are, the average man they interact with is both unprepared and desperate to get laid.
At this point - Many of them will intentionally play up their bad attitudes because they know they can get away with it and that its almost expected.
Conclusion
In conclusion, Yea - I know this probably isnāt the article you thought you would be readingā¦ But..
Firstly, the nature of Romance languages, with their emphasis on emotion, feeling, and spirit, may create a reliance on emotions as a primary means of communication. Secondly, the tradition of QuinceaƱera celebrations plays a role in instilling a sense of entitlement through negative reinforcement and a lack of accountability.
These factors, combined, shape attitudes and behaviors within Latinas that we call toxic behavior.
Fortunately, there is a solution to this. I write primarily for men and believe in traditional relationships. After years of dating Latinas, you can shut down much of their toxic behavior by learning why they act the way they act. With that note, subscribe to my Substack and look out for my future article on how to deal with "Toxic" Latinas.
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Depends what their primary language is. Often with bilingual people. They have different personalities for each language. Which ads to my belief that language also dictates emotions.
If you watch interviews of bilingual people, know bilingual people or areā¦ you tend to have different tones, voices ect in those languages.
I donāt think the lack of fasting is because they know they wonāt play. Itās not that there isnāt really a massive amount of interaction as people think. Cultures tend to live with and around the same culture. People date people in their proximity
Nice article. Very few people would even discuss the QuinceaƱera. I think it is the music, language and culture. Their art, shows are all very passionate.