Should Race Be a Factor in What Country You Visit?

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I often browse through travel forums, Twitter threads, Telegram, and Slack groups, and I notice this question popping up quite frequently.

It's not just people inquiring about which places have the best or most accommodating women, but also which countries are generally welcoming. This question is predominantly asked by Indian, Black, and Asian men.

Often, these individuals assume that if they receive instant confirmation that women in a particular country will be interested in them, they decide to skip that country.

First off, I think that's a weird sole reason to visit a country.

Secondly, I'm going to dispel the myths surrounding why it's wrong to base travel decisions solely on this factor.

This mentality is absurd. It's something I observe predominantly among younger men, although occasionally in older ones too.

They shape their entire worldview around the pursuit of sexual encounters.

I speak from experience. In my early twenties, while living in Europe, my friends and I would plan trips solely to scout out women in different countries. Over the years, I racked up a ridiculously high notch count, but in hindsight, I realized I knew next to nothing about many of the places I visited.

My focus was confined to bars, clubs, and city centers. I missed out on exploring the rich histories of these countries, sampling diverse cuisines, and engaging with local communities. Despite writing numerous guides and advising scores of men since launching this platform, I've come to a conclusion: if your sole motivation for traveling to a country is for a couple easy lays, you'll likely find yourself at the bottom of the barrel for a long time and If you think race is a factor in this… It’s simply your mentality keeping you back.

Let's be clear: game is game.

Personally, I believe race is irrelevant. I have close friends from every racial background, and we've traveled the world together, both within and outside the military. Attitude has always been the defining factor in who succeeds. Approaching a new environment with a negative mindset is a recipe for failure.

Yes, some regions may have cultural biases or hierarchies based on skin color, but that shouldn't discourage you. Take Asia, for example—while some parts may seem homogenous or xenophobic, many guys from all races have visited, dated, and even married there.

Similarly, Latin America may have its prejudices, but outright racism is rare. The notion that an entire country will reject you based on your skin color is a simply dumb, especially in major cities. Consider the numbers: in a city like Mexico City with a population of 9 million, even if just 1% were interested in you, that's still a significant pool of potential connections.

I understand the allure of quick fixes for those who lack the resources or time to explore the world extensively. But let me tell you, there's nowhere easier than the good ol' USA. If you're struggling to find romantic success at home, jetting off to Latin America or Eastern Europe for a women won't solve your problems.

Here's a piece of advice that could revolutionize your approach: don't merely chase after women in foreign lands like a desperate hound.

Choose a destination that genuinely interests you, something beyond the allure of potential romantic encounters.

For me, Germany became my first long-term residency because I was drawn to its productive society, access to historical sites like castles, vibrant nightlife, and the ability to travel throughout Europe. I immersed myself in the language, embraced the culture, made friends, and approached life with a positive outlook. Consequently, romantic opportunities naturally presented themselves. Conversely, I witnessed friends who despised their time in Germany because they refused to adapt, learn the language, or make genuine connections.

The same principle applies to my experiences in Mexico—I was captivated by the culture, cuisine, and endless opportunities for exploration. By building a strong social circle, venturing off the beaten path, and embracing the local culture, I found far more success than even my most conventionally attractive friends.

Things you should do regardless of race.

Learning the Language: Every Black/Asian/Indian friend of mine who thrives abroad has mastered the local language. In fact, it's a game-changer for them because it makes them stand out in the country. Being a foreigner who speaks the language or puts in the effort to learn it earns respect and opens doors. Sometimes, even an average-looking guy can attract attention simply because he can hold a conversation. While looks do matter to some extent, being in a country with zero language skills often means encountering lower-quality social interactions.

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Overcome Negative Stereotypes: Many individuals are burdened by negative stereotypes associated with their country or race, and sometimes they inadvertently conform to them. For instance, Indians may face stereotypes about low muscle mass and unfavorable accents. The solution? Hit the gym to build muscle and improve appearance. It's not easy, but it's achievable. Additionally, work on reducing your accent when learning the language. Your teacher should focus on helping you acquire the proper accent. By enhancing your physical appearance and language skills, you'll immediately stand out and attract positive attention.

Put Yourself Out There: People are generally less forgiving toward foreigners, so even if you're introverted, make a concerted effort to socialize and try new things. Building a broad network can significantly boost your chances of success. Remember, the larger your network, the less effort you'll need to put in to achieve success.

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