First Start Tips To Building Your Social Circle
Written Barney Style
The idea of building and maintaining a social circle is different from culture to culture. In some countries, as you get older, it can be more challenging to create new connections and keep up with existing ones, especially if you live in a large city.
If you’re looking to meet new people for dating or socializing, hosting parties can be expensive, with costs like food, alcohol, and cleanup. However, in some countries in Latin America, the cost of living is lower, and hosting parties can be more affordable.
Additionally, some people encounter more friendly and attractive women with positive attitudes in these countries, making socializing more enjoyable.
These tips are not only for building a social circle abroad…but in whatever city you’re in.
If you’re building a social circle, the most important thing to remember is that you are the rock star.
Here are a couple ways to do that:
1. Don’t be known for being with ugly women
The first point is crucial. Whether you believe it or not, the women you sleep with will talk. Some of these women may have social connections. The more women you meet, the more they will communicate with each other. Attractive women want to be surrounded by other attractive women. When I host parties, I go so far as to create a guest list. Each person must provide me with the name/IG of the person they are bringing. I tell them that my building security guard requires the list, or else he won't allow people in. I always send the invitation without an address and inform them that I'll send them the address once they confirm their group. This is also a strategic move because if I later decide that I don't want them to come, or their guests aren't attractive, I pretend that I forgot to send the address.
In a foreign country, you are the rockstar. Think of yourself as an eccentric millionaire.
Women desire men who are with attractive women. The worst thing you can do is be known for sleeping with unattractive women. One or two drunken mistakes are acceptable, but if everyone knows that you always go after unattractive women, you will be ostracized from social circles. Women don't mind sleeping with men who have been with many women, but not if all of those women are far less attractive than she is.
2. Craft your story as the most interesting man in the world
The second point is useful for making new friendships abroad. Share interesting stories and experiences with your new friends, including tales of the international women you’ve dated. Be sure to avoid speaking negatively about these women and instead focus on their beauty or other special qualities. For instance, you can tell the story of the European woman who introduced you to her family, or ask your new friends to name their favorite country and share a fun story about your experience there. As your social circle grows, these stories will spread, boosting your status and mystique. High-status men and women are always interested in meeting others with a similar level of status.
If you don’t have an interesting life, it’s okay to stretch the truth a little. Don’t make bold lies, because it will 100 percent come back to bite you. Your new social circle doesn’t know your past, and they don’t know if you’ve been a loser or degenerate elsewhere. While you can’t change how people already know you, you can shape your image with these new friends. Make yourself into an all-around interesting guy.
As you build your social circle… You’ll probably want to bring your friends together and expand..What better way than to throw a party?
As you grow your circle and begin to date more often.. You should also remember some key tenants of the game.