A Guide to Throwing Parties
& Building Your Social Circle
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Picture this: It's Saturday night, and you're getting ready to host a party at your house. You have the music playlist ready, the drinks are chilling in the fridge, and the house is looking its best. The only thing missing is the guests.
As the clock strikes the party hour, five stunning girls dressed in sleek black outfits and heels walk into your house, ready to dance and drink the night away. Their laughter and energy fill the room as they make their way to the kitchen for a glass of wine. The bass of the music vibrates through the floor as the party kicks off, with the city skyline providing the perfect backdrop for an unforgettable night.
You make your rounds, introducing yourself to new faces and making sure everyone is having a good time. As the night progresses, the party reaches a crescendo of excitement, and you find yourself at the center of it all. Hosting a party is no small feat, but you've managed to create an unforgettable experience for everyone.
The next day, dozens of chicks follow you on Instagram, and you've been tagged in a dozen stories and highlights. This is how you build a social circle, and this is how you throw a good party.
This is what you want - This is how you build a Social Circle - This is how you throw a good party.
Forget all that bullshit PUA stuff you’ve been reading on the internet. Forget about Day/Night Game. Forget those spam approaches you’ve been taught. It's time for you to build a social circle.
I’ve met a lot of PUA-type guys, and I’ve thrown a party and told them to bring girls… most of them would show up empty-handed. These dudes can spend years walking around malls using cheesy tactics to pick up girls, but they don’t have the social clout to get any of these girls to events.
In this guide, you will learn how to break free from PUA tactics and build a strong social circle that will attract dozens of girls to your parties. From the importance of social clout to the strategies for filling your house with dancing girls, this guide will equip you with the knowledge and skills you need to build a thriving social circle
Step 1 - Assemble Your Team
If you want to throw a killer party and attract dozens of dancing girls, you need to start by assembling your team. However, inviting 50 of your female friends is unrealistic for 98 percent of dudes. Instead, you should have 2-5 core friends who are trustworthy, reliable, and not complete degenerates. This is extremely important.
If you have a friend who can't be trusted, you need to find new friends or remove that person from the process. Even one degenerate can ruin the event for everyone, and no girl will come back if they feel uncomfortable. As the “Party Captain” of the event, you need to make sure that each of your friends knows the rules and is on board with the plan.
Each of your friends should be tasked with sending out invites to at least a dozen girls. By working together as a team, you'll be able to build a social circle and create a party that people remember.
Step 2 - Plan the Party
Now that you have your team in place, it's time to start planning the party. To grab people's attention, you'll need to pick a theme, create invitations, and have all the resources for a good party. With your friends on board, it will be easiest to delegate some of these tasks.
Theme - The intent is not to go over the top but to signal that this isn't a hangout or kickback. Everyone is tired of attending parties where you just stand around and drink beer. A simple theme like everyone wearing black or white will suffice. For my last party, we did a beach theme.
Invitations - The easiest way to create invitations is to download Canva and search for a (*them*e invitation template). You'll have multiple options to choose from. Keep the invitation simple:
"You're invited to X party. Theme: Date and Time." Your invitation gives validity to the event.
Resources - Make sure you have everything you need for the party. This includes drinks, snacks, music, decorations, and any other party supplies. Make a list of what you need and delegate tasks to your friends to ensure everything is taken care of. You can also consider hiring a bartender or DJ if you want to take your party to the next level.
The basics you'll need are alcohol, food, disposable plates, cups, cutlery, and napkins, as well as a bulk roll of toilet paper and trash bags. You have no idea how much toilet paper a group of women can go through in a night. I usually account for a roll per hour per three women.
There are two ways to acquire these items. You can either assign your friends to bring them or calculate the cost yourself, buy everything, and split the bill among the group. Personally, I prefer to purchase everything myself to avoid any delays or last-minute runs to the store. It's important to have everything in bulk ahead of time, so you don't have to worry about running out.
* Don’t worry about buying to much alcohol. Your guest will typically bring bottles. We will discuss guest rules later.
Step 3 - Inviting Guests
This part happens in multiple phases and should start at least 2 weeks out. Otherwise, people won’t have time to invite their friends, confirm plans, or sometimes even get the message.
Phase 1 - Casting call
Each of your friends should be sending invitations out to at least 10 girls each. Expect that 70 percent of the girls won’t show up, not because they don’t like you, but because it’s a big ask and people may already have plans. Girls can generally be flaky no matter want. You want to overinvite rather than underinvite.
If you want 20 girls to come, you should invite 50. Hypothetically, you should try to send out 100 invites. Take the risk pack your house, piss off your neighbors. As long as you’re not doing anything illegal, the memory will be good.
As you build up your reputation, you'll have a higher percentage of people showing up.
Don’t worry about inviting guys. Your core group will be there, and some girls will want to bring their guy friends. You'll find out some girls have boyfriends. For every 5 girls, you can invite 1 guy.
**My rules are strict - guys cannot come to the party without a female accompanying them. Why? Because dudes will show up 90 percent of the time, and you don’t want a sausage fest. Remember - You want your social circle filled with women..
The first invite is simple. You send the invitation picture with the text
"Hey, I'm throwing a party in x weeks. Would you like to come?" I typically send a couple of pictures like the ones above to push the theme.
If you have thrown other parties, include pictures, or link to the highlight to validate that it’s worthwhile. I would suggest someone in your crew be the dedicated photographer - more on that later. When people reply, you tell them, "Cool, I'll send you more info soon."
Assuming you get a lot of responses, a couple of days later, you'll send out more info.
Some many girls will ask if they can bring their friend.
Let them know they can bring their girlfriends and have them confirm attendance.
*It is important to specify that they are welcome to bring a girlfriend. You don’t want to say “friend” because some girls will take that as an invitation to bring their male friend or some random guy.
I often ask them to send me two of their favorite songs because I'll either add them all to a playlist or give them to the DJ. Every girl loves to hear their favorite song come on, and it also gets people invested in the idea to know you'll play music they like.
***The important thing to mention is to ask for their plus ones' names/IG
You can make up a reasoning. I tell people that I need tomake a list for my building security guard, Or to insure that I buy enough snack and food.
The real reason is that, I want to know who is coming to my house.
You are trying to throw a nice party and build a social circle of attractive people. You don’t want a bunch of bums or busted chicks in your house
I tell people, that once they have sent their guest, I’ll confirm them and send the address out.
NEVER GIVE THE ADDRESS OUT BEFORE CONFIRMATION.
This is a private party, you do not want random people showing up
The method to this madness is that if they intend to bring a bunch of busted friends or dudes, You also can conveintely “forget” to send them the address.
Two days before the actual party, I will send out the last message letting them know they are on the list and give them the address along with any last-minute rules. For example, for the summer-themed party, I will specify that girls don't need to bring anything, but guys have to bring a bottle of white wine or liquor. To save money, I will only buy a couple of packs of beer and a few cheap wine bottles.
The goal is to encourage guests to invest in the party by bringing their own alcohol. Personally, I prefer wine as it feels more classy and is better suited for dancing, which is something that women tend to enjoy more than drinking beer.
Step 4 - Party Execution:
Firstly, make sure to clean your house and if needed, ask your friends for help. Arrange the furniture to create an open space for dancing. To add to the ambiance, consider buying cheap balloons and rope lights, which shouldn't cost more than $30. Purchase some food such as party platters of sandwiches or sushi from the grocery store and set everything up in the kitchen. Ensure there's extra toilet paper in visible places in the bathrooms.
Assuming you have a speaker, use Spotify to load up your playlist with the songs that the guests wanted, along with similar top hits and songs. Once the party starts to fill up, people will generally take the initiative to keep the party going. If you have a solid amount of girls, they will organize themselves. Your only job, along with your friends, is to introduce everyone and facilitate the fun.
These following notes are important:
Do not act thirsty at the party. This is not an opportunity to spam-approach women. As the host, you want everyone to be comfortable and have a good time. You do not want to be seen as the guy getting rejected at your own party. Your job is to facilitate the fun and get women's contact info/Instagram handles. As the night winds down, people may pair up, but you should not be hitting on women as the host. One good party means you will have women to talk to for months. Your social circle will grow, and people will start inviting you to their events. Women will often go out of their way to connect with you privately because you are seen as the guy who can put together an event.
Do not be stingy. All of your friends have invited women to the party. The women you invite may hook up with your friends down the road, and vice versa. Live off the idea that women are abundant. Be a good host for your friends and guests.
Document. In some cases, I have had a friend be the dedicated photographer, and sometimes I have hired/invited photographers. We have gone above and beyond setting up a nice area of the house for people to take pictures. If you are really trying to create a good experience, tag people in Instagram stories. Make a highlight reel of the party. Give people memorable moments so that they come back.
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